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Advice From Joe Rogan - Seek Discomfort

Let me begin this post by reminding you that you can truly do anything that you put your mind to because it all starts and ends with your mind. Henry Ford once said, "Whether you think you can, or you think you can't -- you're right." We create our reality. We often forget this when the going gets tough. When it seems like life is against us we switch to the belief that some "entity" is in control. Well, I think it's time we take full responsibility. The most influential people in our society are the ones who throw this nonsense belief out. They know that they are always in control. In this post I will talk about something that has helped me and what I have learned from taking control and doing difficult things. 
First off, let's begin with something almost everyone I know struggles with. Diet and exercising. Are you finding it difficult to exercise? Or maybe you find yourself indulging in delicious, yet empty calorie foods? Is weight control a huge issue? All of these are problems but what do all problems have? Solutions. I know, right? Seems crazy but it's true! You can fix whatever is broken in your life right now! I don't mean that you can solve it in an instant. What I mean is that you can start the process RIGHT NOW.

Let's say you've put on a bit of extra weight and it won't seem to go away. You do have the understanding that the gym was created for this. To lose weight! But for some odd reason, you two can't seem to coexist. Here's the thing, most people view the gym as a chore. You aren't alone. My best advice is to take baby steps. Don't force yourself to the gym and try to lift eighty pound weights and run ten miles because you'll only end up hating yourself and the gym even more. Start by setting small goals for yourself. For example, this week you will run twice a week for at least 15 minutes, the next, three times a week, and so on and so forth. Once you begin to achieve the small goals, you can then move on to bigger ones. 

I'm going to be honest, the gym and I have had a love/hate relationship for a very long time. On days where I realize that I haven't been in a week, I have this inner dialogue between my responsible self and my reckless self. My reckless side yells, "screw the gym! Eat what you want sis, live your life!", while my responsible side politely says, "the gym has helped to build your confidence, go pump some iron girl!" A lot of the time my reckless self has won over my responsible self. Until one day I didn't allow this. When I began to shift my relationship with the gym into a healthy one, things started to change. I no longer beat myself up about missing a few days of the gym. I realized that I was persuaded by a side of me that couldn't even speak to me nicely. I was in a toxic relationship with my reckless self. So I had to kill that side off. Sorry, not sorry buddy.

Instead of entertaining that ineffective dialogue, I now choose to write down why I love the gym and why I should go on days that I lack energy. Try it out! Writing things down on paper is powerful. It will motivate you because you will depend on yourself since it has been documented. Now, what if your problem is your fear of the gym and the crowd of people staring at you. I too struggled with this. My drive to the gym consisted of me hyping myself up by playing some trap music, dancing alone but once I stepped into the gym, my confidence plummeted. I found myself feeling like people were watching me and I would also compare myself to other women. WHY!?!??! Why on Earth would I allow myself to even give these ridiculous thoughts the time of day? It wasn't until I began my work outs that those thoughts dissipated. Want to know why? Because instead of focusing on these thoughts, I was too busy focused on the physical activity. 

As I've mentioned before, everything starts and ends in the mind. We fall victim to those mean and futile thoughts. It is humanly impossible to exist without any negative thoughts but it is completely possible to pick and choose which ones we focus on. If we didn't have any negative thoughts life wouldn't be as interesting and rewarding. Letting negative thoughts pass you by without letting them have an effect on you is a HUGE challenge. Most people raise their white flag at these unproductive thoughts which keeps them in a "comfortable" and stagnant place. Do you want to look back on life and think to yourself, "Wow I’ve allowed my fears to cripple me in times where I could've thrived"
Look, I'm not going to sugarcoat it. The gym is EFFING hard. There are times during a workout that I find myself thinking, "Why the heck do I choose to torture myself?" The answer always comes the moment I walk out feeling a thousand times better than I did upon walking in. Those endorphins are runnin' wild and man does it feel good! 

I once listened to a Joe Rogan podcast where he talks about how difficult yoga is. He said he does it pretty consistently but it's still ALWAYS effing hard. He also mentions how important it is to constantly do things that are difficult. We have to do the things that make us the most uncomfortable. For some of you visual learners, let's think about muscles and how they grow. When doing a strenuous workout, you are literally creating small tears in your muscle fibers. The process of rebuilding these tears is what makes your muscles stronger. So, when we challenge ourselves to do something challenging, we are LITERALLY making ourselves stronger! Listen, I don't mean to ruin the ending for you but you won't die on the treadmill, though it may feel like you will. You'll actually survive and you'll be coherent enough to upload a photo on Facebook of how many calories you burned. It's all a mind game and who likes to lose? No one. So conquer it. Remind yourself of this simple truth. 

Listen to a snippet from the Joe Rogan Podcast here

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